(Originally posted to Queer at EraBlog on Fri, 07 Feb 2003 08:51:06 GMT)

Amy Sohn writes about Hasbians: Women who came out of the closet only to end up in het­ero­sex­u­al re­la­tion­ships.

I came out as bi in 1991. I was very careful never to call myself "gay" because that label never fit me. Even so, that must have been what many people heard, because only that can explain their surprise when I told them a few years later that I had fallen in love with Emma and was going to marry her.

Now many people believe I’m het­ero­sex­u­al, unless I take the trouble to educate them. Bisexual In­vis­i­bil­i­ty. <sigh>